fix(hub): the mail allowance is written down, and recovery keeps a share

Two dicts in `mail.py` held the budget, so every deploy handed out a fresh
one — and this hub is deployed several times a day. A bound a restart forgets
is not a bound, for the reason the denylist is persisted rather than held in
memory (S3). It is a `mail_quota` table now, one row per counter, the
recipient hashed so the table does not become a list of plaintext addresses.

The counting moves with it, into an async `reserve` that has a session, and
`send_off_loop` is the one door it stands in. `_send` keeps the purpose
allow-list: that half needs no state, and it is what stops anything which
puts a message on the wire from naming a reason this hub does not send for.
The caller owns the commit, so a request that fails afterwards is not charged
for mail nobody received.

`hourly_reserved_for_recovery` is new. A flood of sign-ups used to be able to
spend the whole hour and lock out the person waiting on a passphrase reset;
registration and address changes may now spend only the unreserved share.

Values changed as agreed: 10 messages a day to one recipient, 300 s between
two reset codes. The address-change ceiling and its cooldown were two bounds
on one thing — 3 a day and 60 s apart — and collapse into one 48-hour delay.
Asking again for the address already pending is exempt: it reaches no new
recipient, that recipient is bounded anyway, and without the exemption a typo
locked the account out of correcting it for two days.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_01T4YmK41VsEURWFdop4EEeT

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diff --git a/packages/meshbay-hub/src/meshbay_hub/db/models.py b/packages/meshbay-hub/src/meshbay_hub/db/models.py
index e6c7d33..b052e00 100644
--- a/packages/meshbay-hub/src/meshbay_hub/db/models.py
+++ b/packages/meshbay-hub/src/meshbay_hub/db/models.py
@@ -308,6 +308,28 @@ class UserPreference(Base):
     value:   Mapped[str] = mapped_column(Text, nullable=False)
 
 
+class MailQuota(Base):
+    """How much mail has gone where, kept across restarts.
+
+    This was a pair of dicts in `mail.py`, which meant a restart handed out a
+    fresh allowance — and a hub restarts whenever it is deployed. A budget a
+    restart forgets is not a budget, for the same reason the denylist is
+    persisted rather than held in memory (S3).
+
+    One row per thing being counted:
+      `hour`             the instance's hourly total
+      `dest:<hash>`      one recipient, hashed — this table must not become a
+                         list of plaintext addresses (S2)
+    """
+
+    __tablename__ = "mail_quota"
+
+    key:          Mapped[str] = mapped_column(String(64), primary_key=True)
+    window_start: Mapped[datetime] = mapped_column(DateTime(timezone=True), default=_now)
+    count:        Mapped[int] = mapped_column(Integer, default=0)
+    last_sent:    Mapped[datetime | None] = mapped_column(DateTime(timezone=True))
+
+
 class HubSetting(Base):
     """
     Instance-wide settings an admin changes at runtime from the panel.